Do you feel constantly at odds with your ex? Are you having trouble following a consistent parenting time schedule? Is it a struggle to make “normal” parenting decisions together, such as where your child will go to school, how to discipline them and what sports they will play? Do you sometimes feel the conflict will never end?
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, you may need to retain a parenting consultant, or a PC. Parenting consulting provides co-parents a safe and neutral place to present their issues and work toward resolution. A formulated process is used by PCs to help parents resolve disputes that is cost effective and efficient. PCs can help parents resolve any issue including, but are not limited to:
Erin Kassebaum is a parenting consultant who is skilled at helping parents resolve conflict as quickly and cost-effectively as possible. Her fair and efficient process helps parents navigate through their struggles so they can focus on the important job of parenting their children.
Initially Erin will meet with you together so you can learn about process and she can hear your immediate concerns. After that Erin will meet with each of you alone so she can get to know you, hear “your side” of the story and learn which issue(s) you need assistance resolving. She will then ask each of you to formulate your “proposal” for resolving an issue.
Erin uses the following techniques to help co-parents resolve their conflict:
Erin’s hope is that through the parenting consulting process you learn to communicate and compromise so effectively you no longer need a parenting consultant. However, if you work with Erin for a period of time and mutually decide no amount of coaching or facilitating will work, you may move to a decision-only model. Under this model the process changes such that Erin listens to each proposal, gathers any collateral information and issues a decision. Regardless of how you navigate through the PC process, it is sure to save you significant time and money so you can focus less on conflict and more on parenting.
Erin charges an hourly rate which you and your co-parenting partner split for joint sessions and pay in full for individual sessions. In-session time is due at the time service. Out-of-session time is deducted from a “deposit” which is funded by the two of you. The deposit is equal to ten hours of fees. Each of you will receive a detailed description of the time Erin spent on your case and the amount charged against the deposit every month.
Once you and your ex agree on using a specific Parenting Consultant the PC appointment is formalized in a court order for a specified period of time chosen by you. Erin can provide you with a model court order, which you can execute yourself, or ask your attorney(s) to execute for you. It can take quite a while to get a PC appointed so it’s a good idea to start the process well in advance of when you have a pressing issue.
If you have any questions about Parenting Consulting or would like to schedule a consultation, please call Resolution Divorce Services at 612.599.8366.